Using your manners has always been very important in our daily lives. "Please" and "thank you" are only a portion of good etiquette and proper language. Once Cam was able to verbalize his thoughts and speak in sentences, his gracious way of asking for things and being grateful was paramount. Our son does need to ask for assistance and help more often than most. We have always explained to him that others always want to be treated with respect and remembering your manners and being thankful show that. Just like most kids, he still needs reminders now and again, but by and large, he truly is one of the most polite 13-year-olds we know...of course, we may be a bit bias.